In 1 Chronicles 4:9-10 (please read) is “The Prayer of Jabez”. Notice, it is one prayer made up of four requests. Number one, “That you would bless me indeed”, number two “That you would enlarge my territory”, number three “That Your Hand would be with me”, and number four “That you would keep me from evil, that I may not cause pain.”! We can cause pain by the things we do, but the most frequent way we cause pain is by what we say. The pain caused by what we say is usually greater and lasts longer because it deals with “our soul”. Physical wounds certainly cause pain, but eventually they heal. Some even leave visible scars. Scars are evidence or reminders of past wounds. “Things we say” certainly cause pain because they wound our soul or emotions and these wounds can last a lifetime. The wounds caused by what we say can cause such severe pain they can cripple someone emotionally for life! Notice Jesus said in Matthew 5:9, “Blessed are the peacemakers…”, not the “pain makers”! The Lord wants our words, our speech, our conversations, our communications to be “constructive” not “destructive”! Our words must build, not destroy or tear down. Our words should never be “critical”, “down-grading or judgmental”. The word “critical” means to be inclined to find fault or to judge with severity, often readily or too eagerly. Jesus spoke about this in Matthew 7:1-2 (please read). I guess people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw rocks! Look at Proverbs 15:2 and Proverbs 10:19 (please read). Here again, “If you don’t have anything good to say, then don’t say anything at all!” Now, let’s close with Ephesians 4:29-32 (please, please read)! Don’t ever believe that old riddle” that says, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me!” Let us be wise in our conversations and let us pray what David prayed in Psalms 141:3, “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my mouth.” Now, let us not cause pain by what we say! Think about it!
Forever Following Jesus
Gary Pittman, Pastor